First published June 29, 2025.
Most advice about working better asks you to add something new.
This asks you to notice what’s already happening.
At the end of each workday, take five minutes and answer three questions:
- What felt aligned today?
- What drained me?
- What decision did I put off?
Write short answers. A few bullets is enough. You’re looking for patterns. You don’t need a big insight.
Do it for three days. On the fourth day, read what you wrote and ask what keeps showing up.
Each question is grounded in research.
What felt aligned today?
When your work matches what you care about, it takes less effort to keep going. Kennon Sheldon and Andrew Elliot found that people who pursue goals that match their own values show more motivation and well-being over time.
This question shows you what those values look like in practice. Over time you get better at choosing work that fits them.
What drained me?
Some work costs more energy than it should. You often don’t notice until the end of the day, when you’re worn out.
Research on switching between tasks shows it has a real cost. People are slower and make more mistakes right after they switch.
When you write down what drained you, patterns show up. Maybe it’s too many meetings in a row. Maybe it’s a decision that keeps coming back because nobody owns it. Most of these can be fixed.
What decision did I put off?
When we delay a decision, time is rarely the reason. The decision feels uncomfortable.
Fuschia Sirois and Timothy Pychyl found that procrastination is mostly about managing emotion. We avoid the things that make us feel uncertain or unsure of ourselves.
Naming the decision is enough to start. You don’t have to solve it tonight. You just have to see it.
Why something this simple works
James Pennebaker’s research on expressive writing shows that even short reflection can improve clarity and problem solving. Cognitive behavioral therapy uses a similar step: write down what happened and what you thought about it. Many executive coaches use daily check-ins for the same reason.
After a few days, you start to catch problems earlier. You adjust before things get bad, and your decisions start to fit together better.
Try it for three days
No app. No long journaling. Five minutes at the end of the day.
Clarity usually shows up in small pieces. A moment that went well for reasons you can’t explain yet. A task that left you more tired than it should have. A decision that keeps slipping. Writing them down helps you see them. That’s often enough to take the next step.
References
- Sheldon, K. M., & Elliot, A. J. (1999). Goal striving, need satisfaction, and longitudinal well-being: The self-concordance model. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 76(3), 482–497.
- Monsell, S. (2003). Task switching. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 7(3), 134–140.
- Sirois, F. M., & Pychyl, T. A. (2013). Procrastination and the priority of short-term mood regulation.
- Pennebaker, J. W. (1997). Opening Up: The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions.
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